My Wife Is A Slot Machine Addict

by "Jim"
(California)

My wife goes to an Indian casino in San Diego County anywhere from two to five times a month, and probably wastes at least $1,000 per month--maybe more. It's gotten worse lately, with just about every Sunday a casino day. When she's there it's for at least four to six hours, often more--sometimes the entire night. (She's been known to get a room and then come home at 5:00 or 6:00 A.M.--even when she has to go to work the next day. She lies about going, lies about her losses--and never admits the outrageous cash advances she takes ("payday loans" etc.), which will typically charge her $55 to get a "$300" advance. A while back, after an inheritance from my mom, I paid back all her advances as well as credit cards she'd maxed out. I also paid the pawn shop $12 K for the jewelry she'd hocked. She makes $140 K a year and is the primary--but not sole--earner. She even borrows money from our older (employed) daughter to help pay our younger daughter's college tuition. She REFUSES to admit she has a problem. Also, when I DO have some money coming in, she expects me to use all of it for bills while she keeps going back to the casino. When she's there--she acts WEIRD and will stay in a chair for HOURS trying to hit the "jackpot" that never quite happens.

I'm on the verge of contemplating suicide because I just can't deal with her anymore; hell, when she's at the casino, she won't answer my calls--JUST TEXTS if I'm lucky. [We also have another HUGE problem--her TOTAL refusal of ANY sex for almost 20 years and TOTAL REFUSAL to even discuss the topic. I'm 60 and she's 58. We both have advanced degrees. However, due to circumstances (health issues, etc.) I'm dependent on her financially.

That's the "short" version. God Bless!